How to Make Others Like You
One of the basic needs of man is to feel accepted. Knowing this is the secret to
establishing and maintaining great relationships with various types of people.
A number of books, articles and seminars have taken the role of educating people
like you on the different ways of associating with people and building lasting
relationships with them. There are several things that you can do when associating
with other people.
One of these is to make them feel accepted. According to Maslow’s hierarchy of
needs, one of man’s basic needs is to feel a sense of belonging to a group. Man
feels the sense of belonging in either small groups like a family and small circle of
friends, or big groups like clubs, teams, associations, departments and parties.
People have to feel they belong and are needed. One way to convey acceptance of
people’s ideas is by simply listening. Listening communicates the message that
their thoughts are valued and their inputs are significant. It answers the very
basic need to belong and provides a sense of importance.
Have you ever been in any of the following situations?
– While sharing an important insight, somebody would finish the sentence for you.
– While narrating what happened over the weekend, somebody would butt in and
narrate a similar story.
– In a meeting, the boss would cut you short while you are still explaining your
side.
– You ask your child about his day in school and he runs straight to his room.
– You wanted to discuss something with your spouse but he is busy watching
football.
How did you feel? Not good, right? It’s as if you are taken for granted. It’s as if no
one is listening to you and that you do not matter. It signifies that your thoughts,
concerns, and ideas are not accepted.
At the onset of life, an infant can feel this sense of acceptance from a mother who
touches and caresses him in a loving way. As he grows older, his sense of
acceptance and importance now comes from other family members, friends,
teachers, peers, bosses, officemates, spouse, children, etc. Every person needs to
be accepted. It puts meaning to a person’s existence.
Imagine a life with total absence of acceptance. Envision the life of babies who were
abandoned by their mothers. Imagine the effect this will have on the babies’
emotional well-being. It is very possible that these kids will grow up dejected and
feeling discriminated. The effects of discrimination can result to resentment and, if
uncontrolled, can result to violent tendencies.
The feeling of resentment that is harbored overtime can escalate to anger and
hostility. When a person becomes hostile, violence erupts. Resentment is like a
forest fire – it can turn wild especially when fanned with more resentments. The
mere civil act of accepting a person “can make or break them,” as the saying goes.
Acceptance must be done unconditionally. The giver should not expect anything in
return. There should be no “no strings attached” or no commitments to fulfill. To
expect something in return defeats the purpose of making others like you. In fact,
this may only breed resentment, for it would appear that you are manipulating
people by forcing them into a situation they may not like in the future.
Unconditional acceptance of other people’s thoughts, ideas, and concerns can yield
favorable outcomes. Acceptance elicits cooperation and this leads to working
towards a common goal. Acceptance yields positive and fruitful results. At the same
time, you have raised the esteem, importance, and morale of the person whom you
have accorded respect and acceptance.
Be willing to accept other people’s ideas, thoughts, and inputs. You will harvest not
only good results, but also the admiration and appreciation of others, as well.
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This article was initially published and provided by Worldprofit when the Silver and Platinum memberships had blog posting articles. The CEO at the time was Dr. Jeffrey Lant. Dr. Lant Passed Away April 16, 2023
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Daniel Fischer, Dano Enterprises
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